What is the difference between being confident and being arrogant? Is it attitude or spirit?
Confidence by definition is full trust; belief in the reliability of a person or thing. Confidence either comes from something inside or something outside us. To be confident is having strong belief or full assurance. Where does the ability to be confident come from?
Confidence is built from many blocks of successes we have in our lives. A child learning to walk starts out wobbly and unsure, but with every successful step forward, the child stands straighter. The same holds true for each of our successes in life and career. As a parent, each time we handle something well with our child, our confidence builds. In our career, with each successful position or project our confidence builds and we move forward.
Arrogance by definition is a feeling of superiority or an offensive exhibition of it; presumptuous or overbearing conduct, statements, resulting from such a feeling. Like confidence, arrogance comes from within but the results can be much different. To be arrogant we are showing pretensions and superiority. There is little room for any of us to come across better than the next. Nobody knows everything, and everybody makes mistakes. True character is shown in how we handle those mistakes.
Let me encourage you to be confident that you will make mistakes. But don’t let those mistakes be masked by an arrogant spirit. Be real and if others don’t understand, then they may have an arrogance issue.
Let me also encourage you to be confident in the gifts and talents you have. Use them to show others they can be confident in you.
What do you think?
All the best,
Hmm. I bellieve I have struggled with both and I hope I have won. However as with all things worth stuggling with it will be a lifelong tug of war between Confidence in myself and the gifts God has given me and my own selfish desire to rise above and stand out allowing Arrogance to reign.
I think I would be a little cautious about trying to define what I consider to be a fine line between confidence and arrogance. In my mind, and unfortunately in my experience, a better attribute to strive for would be humility. Honestly, I think humans are intrinsically at risk of trying to find strength from within, rather than simply accepting our need for guidance from a great God. Since I think anytime we near the “confident” line we are very likely to be closer to the “arrogance” line than we are willing to admit, I would suggest that we quickly shift our outlook to that of a humble person who tries to always give the glory of success back to the source rather than ourselves. Thoughts?